Tips for writing a love letter

In the digital age, it seems like less is more. As a millennial, I’m often guilty of choosing the most efficient, rather than the most meaningful, method of communication. Why take the time to call someone when you can carry on a constant conversation by text – without interrupting the flow of your daily tasks? Why spell out “I love you” when a heart emoji does the trick? Why go to the effort of writing a letter, sealing and stamping an envelope, and walking it to the mailbox when you all you need to do is hit “send” and your email is delivered in an instant? In all our communication, we’re looking to save time, money, and effort, and letter writing is getting the axe.

But who isn’t excited to receive a hand-written card in the mail? Especially in this hyper-saturated digital world, a letter conveys a strong personal connection that can’t be matched by modern-day technology.

The next time you want to tell someone how you feel, consider writing it down and sending it in the mail. Follow our tips to create a beautiful love letter:

Make it handwritten. There’s something so much more intimate about reading someone’s handwriting on paper. It shows an effort, an investment, that simply can’t be conveyed in a typed piece.

Note the date. Not only will this tell the recipient when the letter was written – since letters, unlike emails, are not electronically time-stamped and sent immediately – but it will also help future readers piece together the chronology.

Include the mundane details of everyday life. When you think of a love letter, you think of a profound expression of passionate love. That’s good, but the expression of general emotions and events of everyday life is just as powerful. Sharing the details of day-to-day life implies a level of intimacy saved for the closest of relationships.

More words, fewer emojis. In other words, be original and put real thought and effort into your letter. Anyone can send a winky smiley face, but only you can express how you’re feeling.

Above all, don’t be afraid to express your love. Use metaphors, imagery, or other special language to convey your feelings. Shakespeare’s Sonnet 18 (“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?”) is famous for a reason, but your love letter doesn’t have to be poetic if that’s not your style. Use language and descriptions you and your loved one will find meaningful.

Bonus Tip: Save all your love letters. You might not find them worth saving right now, but they are a treasure. Precious family histories can be pieced together from love letters found in a shoebox at the back of a closet. 

Posted by: Stephanie Kaczynski